Pouring out my heart, again: Conversations With My Daughter
Mom and daughter conversations can be interesting to say the least. I am a mother of a 9 year old girl. She just turned 9 this year and she already has very mature things on her little mind. Over a 6 month period we have talked about shaving, menses, and developing boobs.
"Mommy, when can I shave my legs?" asks D. "Sweetie, once you start cutting those hairs they will come back thicker, darker and it is a never ending circle." I say. "Maybe, when you are 11 or 12 years old." She looks at me and responds. "Well, my hair bothers me now and I like it when they are smooth." I reach over, lift up her pant leg and look at her legs. She has no hair. "D, did you use my razor?"
"Mom, when am I going to start my period?" asks D. "Well, girls can start anywhere between 9 and 12, I think?" I reply. "I'm going to be 9 soon," states D. "Yes, but that doesn't mean you will start then." I close my eyes and pray "Lord, please don't let her get her period when she turns 9!" I open my eyes and she asks, "Mom, Why do girls have periods?" After stumbling over my words, I explain as much on her level I can, the miracle of life and the purpose of a women's womb.
"Ok, everyone buckle up!" I yell back at our 3 kids. D shouts back, "Mom?" I reply, "Yes?" Without missing a beat she asks, "When will I get myPEARLS?" I look to my husband and mouth silently, "Did she just call her boobs, pearls?" To which he snorts, "YES!" I was not silent enough, because she heard me and said, "It's sounds better than saying 'boobs'...prettier." To which the hubs replies, "It kind of does." *eye roll*
I remember when I was pregnant with this girl and going to a women's craft fair. I saw this graduation blanket that had all kinds of wonderful memories reflected in it. At that moment my heart wrenched and I hadn't even given birth yet! I thought, "Oh my gosh that day will come when I see my baby become an adult!" Presently, I am half way there! She will be 18 years old in nine years! 9 YEARS! It seems like a long time but her first 9 years have just flown by!
I know there are going to be more intense conversations to come and I hope that I do right by her as they come. I pray that I will remain open, honest, loving and be exactly what she needs no matter where these 'conversations' lead. She is such a joy. For now, I will encourage her to enjoy being a kid and when these milestones that signify woman hood come, we will embrace them together.